Dear Aziza,

I have much to tell you and not so much time to tell it so I have decided to write you a letter, hopefully this will do the trick.

In less than a year you will have graduated from Lawrencehill, and though you do not know it yet you will have changed.  But that is not what is important what is important is that you not be afraid to be yourself.  I know that your life hasn’t been easy, your father is not around, and you mother, for the most part, is consumed with her work. And when she is there all she does is nag you.  You have never felt like she really understands who you are but you’ve always been too afraid to tell her.  So afraid that instead of being yourself you’ve hid it in a little box under your bed and have tried as hard as possible to live up to her expectations.

Well, I am here to tell you that enough is enough.  Your mother is miles away, and you are at boarding school.  Do yourself a favor and start doing more things that you want to do.  You don’t want to go to Brown, stop kidding yourself and don’t apply.

 Let me tell you a story about a girl I once knew.  She did theater with me and while she wasn’t an amazing actress she was pretty good.  Her parents wanted her to quit theater but what they didn’t understand was that for her it wasn’t a game or a hobby…it was her life.  I tried to help her, we went to theater auditions together and I helped her research some affordable schools.

Where is she now: at a local community college, in their nursing program.  She told me that she would always love theater but that “something has to pay the rent”.  She let her parents convince her that her dream wasn’t worthwhile and so it isn’t.

There will come a day when you go to college.  Listen to me when I say that for people like us, who have never fought for their dreams before, that this is the best chance.  But remember once you enter college you must hold your dreams and your goals above everything else because if you do not they will be forsaken.

One day, in one of my college organizations, we were playing a game.  We were allowed to ask someone any questions we wanted about their life.  So me, who wanted to test a theory ask one of the seniors what her dream job would be.  Immediately everyone looked at me as if I was crazy.  “Don’t you know that’s the one question you never ask a college senior” someone said to me.  I was shocked…isn’t that what we should be asking them.  I mean  is that not what this college, with a tuition price of over $50,000, a year promised its students…success.

And wasn’t that what success meant, following your dreams and making money doing it???  Guess not.  See what I had begun to notice was that most college seniors took a job in a law firm as a paralegal,  as a human resources assistant, or as an entry-level associate in a management consulting or iBanking firm.  All of them truly believed that they would work there for a couple of yeras and then go get their MBA or JD and pursue their dreams.  Select few did what they wanted to do and lived “average”.  And for some reason you never heard of these students, probably because in the eyes of my college, I guess not makin  6 figures and doing what you really wanted to do wasn’t success…or at least it wasnt successful enough to have enough money to donate to the college 🙂

So Aziza, my point is that you must follow your dreams now, you must begin to make them a reality now.  Because the longer you wait, the less likely it is that it will happen.

My dad is someone I know who has finally reached “the dream”, as of next year he will move into his country home and run his wellness company.  But even he has told me that one should start as so as possible because for all he knows, something could happen tomorrow that prevents him from seeing his dream.

And so, I urge you to seize the day.  it is true, we do not know what tomorrow will bring so we must live our lives to the fullest so that if tomorrow is not a sunny as today at least we can say the we truly lived.

 

Whimsically Yours,

PnC

Written by Patrice

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